Dear Younger Me,
Please listen wisely my friend, this life is but a blink of an eye and I promise you if you let it, it will just pass you by.
Be a child as long as you can! Have an imagination and let it run wild. Use your imagination outside to play pretend with your friends. Be a tomboy, get dirty and sweat. Bring home frogs and catch fireflies! Don’t forget to play dress up, that is great too. Make up is fun, but always know that you do not need it to be beautiful. God made us all perfect in our own unique ways.
Phones and tablets are always going to be around, but you’re only a child for so long. Don’t spend your youth with your head in that thing. Google is great, but remember, it will not be there for tests and may not be there when you need an answer in life. Study hard, your education is more important than you know. Strive to be the best student you can be. When you don’t understand something, ask for help. If you still don’t understand, ask more questions and practice until you do.
Never be afraid to ask for help. For anything. Ever. When you do not know how to ask, ask Jesus what he would do, he will tell you and will NEVER steer you wrong.
Spend more time with your family than your phone. This will mean the world to them. Family will not always be around forever so make every day with them the best it can be. Although you could never imagine your life without them, sometimes we lose them too soon. So, put them before boys and technology. Look them in the eye when you speak. Always use Sir and Mam, its respectful and too many people forget this.
Be a hugger, you never know whose day you can make with just one hug. Smile often, you never know who needs to be cheered up. Be a good listener. There will be plenty of times when you need someone to listen to you. God listens to us and expects you to.
Be a good friend. Friendships are important and can last a lifetime. Choose your friends wisely. This is especially important, choosing the wrong friends can change your whole life and not in a good way. Remember, I know this all too well. Do not change who you are for your friends. Ever. You know who you are, it is who God intended you to be. Friends will come and go, they will hurt you, & may even steal a boyfriend or two, but that is ok, there are plenty of fish in the sea, some just will not be meant for you. A true friend will never try to make you do something you don’t want to. Always remember that, be true to you.
Never, do anything you do not want to do. Ever. Do not be embarrassed about it either. Be confident in who you are. One thing I really want you to do is know that you are beautiful. I want you to love yourself inside and out. God made us imperfectly perfect and individually unique. Love the person he made. Never let anyone tell you or make you feel any differently. If they do, that is a fish you need to toss back into that sea! Be thankful that God made you, YOU.
You have your whole life to find the man of your dreams. Enjoy your youth, focus on school, and never let any boy make you feel bad about yourself. Listen to me now, when you are young, you will think these boys will rope the moon for you. Do not let emotions control you. Always be in control of YOU. Never let a boy make you feel worthless, inferior, or anything like that. As I just said, always be in control of you!
Respect your body, as Jesus said, “Your Body is a Temple,” 1 Corinthians 6:19. Save yourself for Marriage as God intended us too. I know when you are young and “in love, ” these things can be hard to do and sometimes you will even feel peer pressured to, but for the third time, this I will say, “always be in control of you.” Never let a boy or a man try to tell you what you should do, it is your body to protect and that is what you ALWAYS should do. It will not make him “love you” more, but that is what a lot of them will say and do. Remember to ask Jesus, “what would you do?”
With teenagers today, it is sad to say, but these are the things to keep far, far away. There will be beer and there will be weed, you will be asked, and it will be passed. I beg of you please, to just say, “pass.” Alcohol and drugs may seem “safe” to do, but one night of partying can change a lot, especially you. Therefore, is why I say, choose your friends wisely. With alcohol and drugs come a lot of responsibility and, unfortunately, as sad as it is to say, there are so many parents that lose their kids this way. The pain parents suffer to lose a child is unimaginable, please think about them and your family before you take that first drink. Addiction is something to fear and most of the time, it starts with, “I will just have a beer.”
Life will be hard, there is no mistake but just keep in mind, it all depends on the decisions you make. There will be loss and there will be pain, but it is important to remember that you try and stay sain. There is no bottle or pill that can take it away, every day you wake up and allow it, the pain will stay. If you feel lost and do not know what to do, just look up and ask Jesus, “What would you do.”
We all make mistakes; it is going to happen. Do not be ashamed, just learn from them. Use it to help others know which road not to take. Set good examples so people will want to learn from you. But remember, there is no sin too big or too small that Jesus will not forgive, not one at all. Just be sincere when you ask him for forgiveness, he knows your heart better than anyone else.
This thing called life is easier said than done, but one thing I know is, with God by your side, you can trust in him and enjoy the ride. There will be times when you ask God, “why?” and there will be things you just cannot understand, but I promise that Jesus is your absolute best friend. The love he has for us is even more than that of a mother and child. He died for our sins and is coming back soon. Please live by his word so you can live an eternity with no pain and no end. And remember, you will be reunited with the ones you love… that did the same too!